It's not an easy decision but YOU made it. You've made the first step in creating the change you want to see in your life. We are proud of you and are here to support you every step of the way. Now, let's get started.

I would never recommend something I have not tried myself. I implemented the following steps in my personal life several years ago to end and heal from the toxic areas in my life that were meant to derail and destroy my life:

Admit that it is a problem. The first step to change is to acknowledge that the way we are doing things is not beneficial to our end goal. A person's past is not the number one determining factor of their future, their choices are.

Begin the process of change. Determining you are going to change for yourself, your family and your future will not happen simply out of a desire to change.
Commit to finishing the course. It is not fair to ourselves to have to deal with family curses simply because we were not willing to come face-to-face with them in the present.

YOU ARE OUT, NOW WHAT

It starts with forgiveness. Some experiences and behaviors are casually related to inner thoughts and feelings. If your inner world is holding onto unresolved trauma, your outer experiences could reflect what you have suppressed. Know that it is okay to say I am not okay and to seek help to safely deal with a painful past. It is the first step to healing, loving and taking care of yourself, so that you can ultimately live your best life.

Repeat after me: Maybe now, I can look myself in the eye in the mirror without cringing and smile. Maybe now, I can accept and feel loved because I am learning to love myself. Maybe now, I can take a day off work to have a ME day without drowning in guilt. Maybe now, I can start living. I will try my best to enjoy every moment to the fullest. I am grateful for everything, even when things do not go my way. Travel whenever I can. Spend a little extra on things that will make myself happy. Try something new. Develop hobbies. Always have hopes and dreams for the future…but do not plan to do your ‘real’ living in the future. Live now.